Friday, October 29, 2004

Liar, Liar?

I think the following article is great and very useful, however, next time I am confronted about maybe being dishonest, it will be hard to remain calm. (Remaining calm is one of the listed no, nos,) Even though I am being unjustly accused, (me, lie?)I will (I just know it) REMEMBER this article and be afraid to fidget, move suddenly, become too rigid, stare in your eyes, not look at your eyes enough.......

Think he (or she) is lying to you?

According to Sheri and Bob Stritof of about.com
25 signs to tell if someone is lying to you:
1. Touching the chin or rubbing the brow
2. Crossed arms or legs
3. Playing with hair
4. A line of perspiration on the brow if it isn't a warm day
5. Saying "no" several times
6. Continually denying accusations
7. Being extremely defensive
8. Providing more information and specifics than necessary
9. Inconsistencies in what is being shared
10. Body language and facial expressions don't match what is being said such as saying "no," but nodding the head up and down
11. Smugness
12. Placing a barrier, such as a desk or chair, in front of self
13. Uncommon calmness
14. Unwillingness to touch spouse during conversation
15. Being hesitant
16. Slouching posture
17. Rigidity or fidgeting
18. Differing behaviors; not acting in a usual fashion
19. Unnatural or limited arm and hand movements
20. Partial shrug
21. Lack of finger pointing
22. Unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure
23. Stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like "um" or "you know"
24. Lack of use of contractions; prefers emphasizing "not" when talking
25. Avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you, or turning away from you while talking

3 comments:

Lili said...

Hi, I came in through BlogExplosion...I find this list to be especailly interesting, because my child has autism, and nearly everything listed here is the sort of thing an autistic might do while talking to you...yet most autistics are incapable of lying...

Dawn said...

Hi, ditto on BlogExplosion. The list is interesting, but a more reliable way to tell if someone is lying is watching the difference between their normal actions and their actions while lying. For example, a person who normally looks away will look you in the eye, a person who normally seems calm will figet, etc.

Anonymous said...

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